Emotions, a weakness or a strenght?

Part 3

What do I wish for society

I wish that I had learned emotional control at a younger age and not by myself.

I wish that it was more common to talk about emotions and to deal with strong emotions, talking to others about them.

I wish that we could recognise emotions as being a strength not a weakness, so we wouldn’t feel shame or weak for having them.

I see so many men in my life today who has an issue talking about emotions, and I recognise myself from when I was younger and how much pain I dealt with from hiding my emotions.

And I sympathise.

It shouldn’t feel this hard talking openly about them

I don’t only see this in men growing up I still see it today in women, and in kids, how they grow up feeling now.

My own daughter I talked to about emotions, and she told me that her father had taught her how to hide hers.

I understand my ex comes from another time, where we where told to get over it if we where sad, or toughen up, getting told not to cry.

I grew up at the same time, I was taught the same.

And we teach our kids what we learned from our parents.

It’s now my job to teach my daughter that its okay to feel what she feels and to talk about them.

I hope that she grows up teaching the same to her kids and so on

And then maybe in the future we won’t hear sayings like stop crying you cry baby or toughen up.

But people would be more understanding and show empathy when someone is upset.

To be in world where crying isn’t seen as a weakness but just an emotion. Something that happens and can give you strength on the other side of it.

Being me, and a highly sensitive person, I often hear the saying, you are too emotional Fay, you are too sensitive. Just toughen up and get over it.

I don’t let it bring me down anymore.

I don’t change myself because of that.

I tell everyone this.

Yeah I’m emotional, its who I am, and what has made me the person I am today, I’m emotional, but I’m so many other things too, because I’m emotional. Not despite it.

I wouldn’t choose to be anyone else today then who I am.

I don’t see shame in it anymore.

I do often though feel misunderstood, and that’s okay, because we all have our own journey and life experiences to go through. We are all different and can’t always understand everyone around us.

What we can do instead is respect each other for being different.

Everyone I talked to the last day or so about emotions, all told me the same story.

That they were taught to toughen up, to not cry or show emotions in public or to talk about them.

Most of them also wish it had been different.

Not opening up and talking about emotions, can leave a lot of scars, that has to be healed or worked on in the future.

I had to spend years working on mine, and I still have to work on it today. I’m not done yet healing from staying silent for so long.

So, I sympathise, but I also recognise that we can do better as a human race, and its up to every one of us to change this for the next future generation.

How we change this fact is to start small.

• Work on ourselves first.

• Learn to embrace your emotions and work through them, and not run from them or hide them.

• Learn how to talk about them with others

• Allow yourself to be vulnerable and see that as being brave, not as a weakness.

• Start small, share it with a friend, a partner, a family member, and then when you feel more comfortable talking about it to others, spread that knowledge.

• We have to understand that we cant do this alone.

We are a social species, and we need each other, and we need to be able to open up about sensitive subjects.

No one is strong every day, we all have weak days, where we feel beaten down by life.

Instead of walking that lonely road alone, recognise that you don’t have too.

But if you dont open up about how you feel how can anyone be there when you need It the most.

I am proud of myself that I got through every tough event in my life.

I learned emotional control to the point where emotions aren’t a danger to my well being anymore.

Because I learned to handle them and talk about them when they arose.

I am stronger for it

Thank you for reading my posts about emotions.

How are your thoughts and feelings about emotions?

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Have an amazing day 🙂